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I’m very pleased to announce that the entire text to my book The Lifelong Activist: How to Change the World Without Losing Your Way (Lantern Books, 2006) can now be found at www.lifelongactivist.com. For those who aren’t familiar with it, the book is a self-help guide for activists, organizers, educators, human service workers and others…

Or, more specifically: sex. I mainly write on procrastination and perfectionism in one’s work, but the same principles apply in other parts of our lives. Here’s Andrew Sullivan nailing it (so to speak) relative to perfectionism in our sex lives: “If your standard is never to commit a venial sin, you will almost certainly fail.…

How much does it hurt when parents or others unfairly label us? An acquaintance recently told about how, after her 13-year-old daughter broke her wrist playing sports, her Dad, who had taken her to the hospital, responded to her expressions of pain by telling her, “Don’t be a wimp.” Later, when Mom showed up, the daughter’s first words were not about her painful injury, but an outraged and accusatory: “He called me a wimp!”

There are plenty of selfish, exploitative people in the world – no doubt. But most of the people I encounter in my workshops and coaching have the opposite problem – they’re overgivers, perennially sacrificing their needs and missions to others’. That’s a much nobler problem, but still a problem.

this guy sounds pretty emo about his commute, but I actually agree with him 100%. commuting is dreadful and cars are the most overrated appliance. The less I drive, the less I want to drive.

In this interview, Hawking gives the same basic advice I hear from successful people in every field: don’t worry about your weaknesses or “deficits,” focus on leveraging your strengths: “My advice to other disabled people would be, concentrate on things your disability doesn’t prevent you doing well, and don’t regret the things it interferes with.…

Happy to see you here – feel free to browse, kick the tires, etc. If you have questions or comments, please leave them in the comments box or feel free to email me. Thanks! Hillary

Hamlet: To me [Denmark] is a prison. Rosencrantz: Why then your ambition makes it one. ‘Tis too narrow for your mind. Hamlet: O God, I could be bounded in a nutshell, and count myself a king of infinite space—were it not that I have bad dreams. Guildenstern: Which dreams indeed are ambition, for the very…

Here’s a fantastic page of them: http://www.quotelady.com/subjects/perfectionism.html Some good ones: A child becomes an adult when he realises that he has a right not only to be right but also to be wrong.–Thomas Szasz Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err. It passes my comprehension how human beings, be…