“Why am I so hateful and a perfectionist?”

In a big rush this morning due to heavy teaching load, but had to post about this. Like most blogsters, I regularly check my stats to see how much traffic I have, where it’s coming from, etc. Among other things, I see the search terms people use to wind up on my site. Last night,…

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New Year’s Resolution: Do Less Housework!

Most people think of procrastination as a simple bad habit, but it’s often much more than that: it’s a strategy we employ when we’re afraid of the outcome of an activity or project. So, someone who hates his job might procrastinate on looking for a new one because he’s afraid of not getting any offers,…

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From the Seven Secrets of the Prolific: a Writer Who Resources Herself Abundantly versus One Who Doesn’t

Prolific writers resource themselves abundantly. They invest in themselves and their writing. They work on great-functioning equipment, and in the best environment they can. This not only directly aids their productivity but sends an important message to themselves and others that their writing is important. Underproductive ones, in contrast, are likely to be found working on crappy equipment in dank basements with the mold and spiders and last season’s wardrobe.

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A Book in a Blog Post

The Seven Secrets of the Prolific are the key behaviors separating productive/prolific people from those who are underproductive: each addresses a major category of disempowering constraint.

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Perfectionism is Rooted in Grandiosity

The idea that grandiosity fuels perfectionism always shocks perfectionists, who think their problem is low self-esteem. But it’s grandiosity that causes the shame and low-self esteem by constantly setting goals and conditions the writer can’t possibly live up to.

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