Welcome AWP People!

I had a blast tabling at the Association of Writers and Writing Programs meeting this past weekend. I met so many fantastic writers and writing teachers, and left very inspired. So many people dedicated to the written word, and to expression in prose and poetry. If you’re here after meeting me at the AWP welcome!…

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How to Recognize and Cope with Success-Related Losses

I’ve become increasingly aware that: (a) success always involves some loss, compromise, disappointment, or sacrifice; and (b) that fear of that loss is a major barrier for many people. In the below excerpt from my forthcoming book How to Get Willpower for Weight Loss and Other Important Goals, I deal with this important topic. –…

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Harsh Parenting Linked to Depression, Unhappiness, and Other Problems in Kids and Adults

“A review of two decades worth of studies has shown that corporal punishment is associated with antisocial behavior and aggression in children, and later in life is linked to depression, unhappiness, anxiety, drug and alcohol use and psychological maladjustment. Beyond beating, parents can also hurt children by humiliating them, labeling them in harmful ways (“Why…

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Stephen King and Anthony Trollope on the Importance of Approaching Your Work With the Proper (Non-Grandiose) Attitude

From The 7 Secrets of the Prolific: The prolific tend to see their writing not as some holy mission but their “work, “craft,” or even “job”: Stephen King: “Don’t wait for the muse…This isn’t the Ouija board or the spirit-world we’re talking about here, but just another job like laying pipe or driving long-haul trucks.…

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Welcome Tomorrow’s Professor People!

Glad you found your way here! There are plenty of free resources to help you. I’m very grateful to Dr. Reis for mentioning my book because I have a special admiration for graduate students and scholars in general. Your work is very important! The appendix to The 7 Secrets of the Prolific is devoted to…

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He Gets It!

“We must act knowing that our work will be imperfect.” Barack Obama, 2d inaugural address, January 21, 2013

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This is Called “Situational Perfectionism”

Situational perfectionism is when something happens that causes your perfectionism to spike. Examples include: *You’ve invested in your writing or other dream – say, by taking a class or buying a piece of equipment – and think, “Now, I’d better make that pay off.” *You’ve just finished a workshop or class, and are feeling all,…

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